White girls looking
for black men are often looking for new experiences and ways to get to
know another race. Interracial dating is a fun way to open up one's horizons to
new ideas, traditions and cultures. But for white women looking for black men, interracial dating is also a
way to find a stable partner, the start of a serious relationship and -why
not?- even a way to find the ideal husband. And there are black men out there
who want to date white women for
the same reason. But they are not necessarily the majority.
In many cases, men are more spontaneous than women when it
comes to dating. They will go out with a woman they like, without thinking too
much about the future. Women, on the other hand, most times start to fantasize
about how a long term relationship with their new date would look like. There
is nothing wrong with these two approaches. They are both natural and just
different with each other. But at some point, two people who date need to have
“the talk”, to be sure they are on the same page, when it comes to commitment.
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Especially when you date online, a common misunderstanding
among men and women is whether dating is exclusive or not. You can never be too
clear about it. There is nothing wrong with asking your date if he is also
seeing others while dating you or if he prefers exclusive dating. If you do not
feel comfortable with parallel dating, be honest about it and just let your
date know that you would rather stay friends with him, if he does not like you
enough to devote a couple of months to finding out if the two of you are a good
match. But be prepared to accept his decision!
Once this first step has been taken and you have been dating
for a while, you can let your date know that you feel comfortable enough with
him and you are ready to meet his friends and family and would like to
introduce him to your friends. Family is scarier, so it can come later. If he
is hesitant, start with one friend at a time, instead of a group of people.
Give him time to adjust. Make it clear that you will introduce him as your
boyfriend and ask him how he feels about it. If he wants to be introduced
casually as a friend, maybe he is not as serious about you as you thought and
you need to reconsider your commitment.
After he has met your friends and family and you have been
together for a few months, you can start a general conversation about how he
sees himself in the future: would he like to get married and have a family or
is he planning to keep his lifestyle the way it is now? Of course, this is just
an indication and people's minds change, but if you want to start a family in
the near future and he doesn't, then maybe you need to move on. Of course,
talking with him and letting him know your plans first is an important step to
take. Some times people need a bit of motivation to take the next step.
If your date decides that they do not want to commit, think
about it in a positive way. We learn something from every relationship and next
time you will be more clear about what you want from your partner, from the
start. Good luck!
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